Arguments ： ①Think analytically as well as romantically about whom to marry.
②Pay attention to traits which while change over time.
References ：Ty Tashiro , Science of Happily Ever After
A Romantic Lens
Arguments：①More peoplewant to marry the person they are passionately in love with.
② Their logic is that you need a few years of passionate love to fuse you together so you'll stay together when times get hard.
References ： ①Louis de Bernières , Corelli’s Mandolin
②Judith Wallerstein and Sandra Blakeslee，Good Marriage
A Moral Lens
Arguments ： ①A marriage doesn't exist just to exist or even just for procreation.
②It serve some higher purpose, whether it is seeking God’ kingdom for the religious or in service to some joint cause or humanity-enhancing project for the secular.
References ： Tim Keller，Meaning of Marriage
My Comments
① Think more about moral lens when you meet someone that you want to marriage with.
② Stop blind yourself from moral project anymore.
③ Keeping pace with The Times can last for a long time, and the core issue of a long time is the high compatibility of values and concepts.
④ Establish a correct view of marriage is that two people because of love and together, want to grow old, is not to make themselves have a more comfortable and blindly to each other to ask for.
⑤ There are always conflicts in life, and it is our right choice to try to solve them.
⑥ Polish your eyes，go insight to the others mind.
Author‘s Comments
①Every day there's a chance to inspire and encourage your partner to become his or her best self.
② It's a partnership of mutual self-giving for the purpose of moral growth and to make their corner of the world a little better.
③ It's probably best to use all three lenses when entering into or living in a marriage.
④ In the romantic view, the heart is transformed by love, at any age. In the moral view, spiritual transformation - over a lifetime, not just over two passionate vears - is the whole point.
⑤People have great power to go against their own natures and uplift their spouses, by showing willingness to change, by supporting their journey from an old crippled set to a new more beautiful self.
